Living Loving Learning

A Check-Up for Wives

In Marriage on Sunday, April 5, 2009 at 7:04 pm

*Does my husband see me smile more often than not?

*Is my home a happy home?

*Am I someone even I would want to come home to?

*Do I enjoy life?  Do I know how to have fun or am I often too intense or dramatic?

*Am I husband-focused, or am I kid-focused, object-focused or even me-focused?

*Am I positive and encouraging?

*Do I allow him to dream without pointing out all the reasons why “that won’t work”?

*Do I allow the Holy Spirit to be his conscience?

*What do my children hear from my mouth concerning my husband?

*Am I still someone, today, that my husband would pursue and fall in love with?

*Am I really a submissive wife who shows respect to her husband?

*Do I often show my disapproval of my husband’s actions by giving the “silent treatment”?

*Do I pray for my husband?

After almost 35 years of marriage, these are questions I still need to ask myself.  A check-up is good to keep our marriages healthy.  Still working on it here!





  1. Thanks for posting this Robin! No, I am not pointing fingers at my wife figuring out “Ah ha, got you there” or anything like that. I am actually just reflecting on those same questions from a husband’s point of view about his wife. Looking at areas where I need to do better at showing my love and appreciation toward my wife. Thanks for the post!

  2. You rock! This is a list to post on my fridge! I have a friend that we keep each other inline by saying two words, “encourage and initiate.” It is our cute secret code. 🙂

  3. These are great questions to ask everyday!

    I want to be the kind of wife that my husband still falls in love with everyday!

    Some days I know that I wouldn’t want to come home to myself!! 😮 Working on it everyday!

  4. Need to put this in my bathroom to read everyday! Thanks mom=)

  5. GREAT questions. Thanks, Robin. Love you big!

  6. I do strive for excellence in this. I’m not perfect, but oh how I try! Thanks for the reminders!

  7. Hmmm, did you write this with me in mind? Sshhh, if you did, don’t tell me. But I’ve made a mental note to brush up on a few things. I think Nicole has a good idea to print this out. 🙂

  8. *Do I allow him to dream without pointing out all the reasons why “that won’t work”?

    I am so guilty of that one! Yikes. Tune up required! 🙂 I think you overheard our conversation last night on a # of dreams…. Love you!

  9. Loved the check-up questions!! We always have room to grow. Thanks for sharing with us all. I love reading what you and your kiddos write. You did good, Robin. Blessings to you!!

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